I know a lot of people have come across the dilemma often...do you tell your best friend that her boyfriend is a d-bag? Do you tell your mother that her shirt is ugly? Do you tell another friend that you think there is something wrong with their baby?
I've dealt with many of these problems, but this is one situation where I know that person would never forgive me for what I am saying. So do I keep my mouth shut or do I wake this person up to their own reality?
For the record, I usually tend to be honest with people. I think honesty is the best policy. I do tell my mother that her outfits could use some work. Just a couple of weeks ago I told her that her forehead was too big and she should get bangs. Another time, a friend of mine told me that since I am such a good friend I could tell her that her baby was ugly if I thought he was (he wasn't by the way). People that I know or have known have praised me for my honesty. I just don't see what the point of lying is. I would rather own up to my indiscretions than have to explain down the road, when the truth comes out, why I lied in the first place. It takes too much energy to lie, in my opinion. And the truth usually does come out.
So what would you do? Would you tell someone something that you knew if you did, that you would never speak to this person again? Or would you keep your mouth shut and continue to hold your tongue? It is getting really hard for me to hold my tongue lately, but I don't want to destroy a relationship.
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